Feng Shui for Break-Ups

Chocolate Therapy For Break-Ups
The end of a relationship, whether it was a short romantic fling, a long deeper connection, or even a close friendship, can feel like a divorce of some sort.

It doesn’t need to be a legal battle or an actual end of a marriage to carry the energy of divorce. Albeit, adding a legal aspect can bring much more dragged out misery and despair, all ending relationships carry grief and loss to some degree.

If you’re sensitive like me, then you not only carry your own sorry and loss, but that of your friend and/or partner’s as well. Even many years after the end of a relationship, we may still feel the loss now and again.

So, when you are in the rut of emotional despair and nothing makes you feel better, try adding a little feng shui to your space to get the positive energy moving again. Energizing your space can aid the healing process not only on a physical, but an emotional level as well.

Here are some of my favorite feng shui tips to get you started.

Fresh Bedding

If the relationship was romantic, and you lived together, getting a new bed or mattress is most ideal. This is especially helpful if you were married or in a long term relationship. If this isn’t financially possibly, a new bedding set is a great alternative; at the very least new sheets.

Think about how much time you spend in bed and as a couple.

This is a great place to remove old stale energy and invite in new energy that is yours alone.

Get rid of pictures

Is it really necessary to keep all the old photos of your ex or old friend out on display?

Holding onto pictures (even if buried in your basement) can still keep the energy of the relationship lingering. Think for a moment about the symbolism of buried in the basement.

Your basement represents the foundation of your home; YOUR foundation.

Do you need that energy lingering there?

Whether it is in your desk, in a picture frame, or in your basement, it’s time to let go. It will be challenging to attract a new relationship when you are holding onto the old one.

Get rid of gifts or items purchased togetherJewelry

This can be as simple as getting rid of some touristy junk you bought together on a trip, or as complex as the jewelry gifts, or furniture purchased together.

When I went through my divorce, I wanted all-new everything. I wanted items that fit my style and were my own. It was my dream to be able to have a gift registry, just to start over.

Again, it’s not always feasible to re-furnish your entire home, but you can attack in baby steps, adding small items here and there; a set of dishes, new art work, etc.

Jewelry is one of those hard to let go of gifts, but every time you wear something given to you from a friend or ex, you will be thinking of that person, either consciously or subconsciously. You don’t need that extra energy lingering, I promise.

So, donate to someone who would love it, or sell it on craigslist, and treat yourself to something new.

Unfriend on social media

Yes, yes, I know, it is quite the ego blow to let your Facebook friends drop down by one.

But really, what is the purpose of keeping that person on your radar?

Trust me, I completely understand the need to cyber-stalk and see what that person is “up to,” but this usually leads to feelings of resentment and more heartbreak. You may see a picture you don’t like (i.e. that person has found someone else), or it can just rehash old feelings of loss and grief, setting your healing process back even further.

The truth is, even if that person has given the illusion of moving on or he/she actually has, YOU can’t move on until you truly let go. I understand the complexity of having children and wanting to spy, but that just opens up a whole new can of worms and there are much more deeper issues to work through (maybe a future blog).

Spruce up your love and relationship corner in your home and/or bedroom

Feng Shui BedroomThis is the area that is in the far back, right corner of your home or any room as you are standing in the doorway, looking into the room. Take a peak at this area.

Is it cluttered?

Is there a bathroom?

Are there missing areas in the architecture?

Is there some amazing art, but when you look at it, you feel a little sad an lonely?

These are all major issues, some of which can be addressed quite simply, and some may that require specific feng shui cures, or remedies. For some quick fixes to the area, check out last year’s blog on Feng Shui for Love and Romance.


While these are just a few suggestions to get the energy moving, there are so many more little things you can do energetically and physically in your space.

We feel pain from all types of loss, no matter the size. Using feng shui in your space can help create shifts, ranging from lifting your vibration slightly, to moving out of depression.

Only you know how you feel, and it’s ok if it seems irrational at times. I want to remind you to be gentle on yourself, and make time your friend. Even with the slightest energy shift, you can start to heal and move on from any form of grief, large or small.

Please share your stories or comment on other ideas you have tried. I would love to hear from you!

Warmest blessings!

Take-a-Breath Tuesday: Call-In Meditation Class


Call-in from the comfort of your own home or office for these meditation classes as it fits your schedule. This guided meditation call will be offered weekly and is for any one interested in learning about meditation, to anyone who has experience.


Guided meditations will last approximate 30 minutes with time after for discussion and questions. We will work on new techniques each week. If you just want to call in for the mediation portion, there is no need to stay for the discussion portion. Classes will be recorded as well and available for playback for participants. Details given upon registration.


Take from this class tools you can use immediately to:

  • Release daily stress.
  • Feel more centered.
  • Cope more effectively.

Fee: $10 online. Or purchase a 5-class Punch card for $40

Additional information: Call Julie with any questions, at 303-929-9655. Visit these pages to learn about Julie, meditation and energy healing.

Meditation Class: Grounding

Stacked Stones with Moss image | Meditation Class: Energetic Protection

Please join me for two hours of gentle instruction and deep relaxation. This class is for anyone interested in learning about meditation, to anyone who has experience. Even if you’ve been to a class before, this will be a different experience for you. Learn meditation techniques for a modern lifestyle and other methods for creating calm in your daily life. Concepts we’ll cover include:

  • Protection techniques from harmful or unhealthy energy.
  • Grounding and centering.
  • Filling in with your own positive energy.
  • Guided meditation.

Take from this class tools you can use immediately to:

  • Protect yourself from harmful energy.
  • Feel more centered.
  • Cope more effectively.
  • Release daily stress.

Light snacks, coffee and tea will be served.

Fee: $25 online or $30 at the door

Additional information: Call Julie with any questions, at 303-929-9655. Visit these pages to learn about Julie, meditation and energy healing.

Bring (optionally): A journal or notebook, a cushion or pillow and a friend.

I look forward to welcoming you in my space and sharing what I’ve learned in my own study of meditation and energy healing!

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